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HUMAN HAIR MYCOREMEDIATION??? are you fucking kidding?? that’s the coolest! and worms get a slice of the cake too??? god nature is amazing. fuck big oil and thank your local mushrooms, kids

I think it's important to understand that discussions around amatonormativity usually aren't (or shouldn't be) asking people to see their individual romantic relationships as less important, because wanting a long-term monogamous romantic relationship isn't inherently amatonormative.

Amatonormativity is about the bigger picture of how society treats romantic relationships. It's about placing romantic relationships at the top of a hierarchy and then claiming that most meaningful close and intimate connections to other humans are only accessable through them. Amatonormativity is the assumption that everyone wants to end up in a monogamous long-term romantic relationship and then decrying anyone who wants a relationship that doesn't fit into that very narrow category.

Every individual person has to figure out for themselves which types of relationships they desire or don't desire and how much importance they want to give them. Amatonormativity criticizes the fact that that's not a question you are normally asked in the first place, because the answer is always assumed.

I think if in the end someone decides to prioritize their romantic relationships, they will still have defied amatonormativity simply through consciously making that decision, and through not assuming the same for everyone else. To me, dismantling amatonormativity is about deconstructing the assumed hierarchy of relationships, giving people the chance to actually think about what they truly want, and opening the pathways for those possibilities.

In case people don't realize everyday things that are amatonormative

This is not a comprehensive list, just some examples.

1. Making fun of people who've been married multiple times.
2. Giving preferential treatment (first choice on holidays, no overtime requirements) to married persons or people in long term relationships.
3. Expecting people to bring romantic partners to functions for work, social groups etc. rather than a person who would enjoy the event best.
4. People respecting "I'm seeing someone" more than "I'm not interested".
5. Asking new co-workers, strangers, etc. about their marital status, which assumes 3rd parties have a right to such info (they don't) and that everyone has an interest in marriage.
6. Laws that prevent non family from supporting single friends but allow spouses and romantic partners to do so in times of crisis.
7. Laws that give financial benefits to the married for no reason other than they're married.
8. Laws against poly marriages and relationships even if all parties involved are happy in the relationship and want to get married.
9. Single people not being permitted to carry friends on their insurance while married people can carry their whole families (this essentially creates a pay gap as the married person is getting more benefits than their single co-workers are permitted)
10. Discrimination against single people in the rental and housing markets.

And things that are not amatonormative

1. You being in a romantic relationship with one other person and being happy and prioritizing that relationship in your life.

They interact with each other like they’re characters in Dune. And they’re besties

Bonus image for both of them:

I’m still absolutely obsessed with this 👁👁

some people seem to think that being horny for a media is paradoxical to critical analysis but actually anyone who makes quality horny content is so knee-deep in critical analysis their horny content reads like an extremely led psych eval

The madden gif maker has banned the use of the word “capitalism”.

“Too many people were using our videogame football gif maker to make communist propaganda. We need to put a stop to that.”

i will never be against piracy ever but i also need physical media to remain

the average blockbuster carried about 3x as many films than that that are streaming on Netflix or any other streaming service, physical media along with piracy is more important than ever.

I thought this wasn’t true, because how could it be true? How could one small store have more movies than an online database? So I googled it.

I am surprised and depressed to learn it’s 100% true, according to google. A Blockbuster store was required to have a minimum of 7000 titles, but most averaged about 10,000. Netflix has 4000 movies. (And 1800 tv shows if you want to count those, but even included, it’s still less)

Now I’m even more depressed about the collapse of physical rental stores.

if you’re ever losing an argument hit’em with the “you want me.”

black and pink are not enemies they are besties. girlfriends even

they’re holding hands <3

someone: hey I noticed this thing you did in your writing!

me, kicking my feet up flirtatiously: oh??? do you want to hear my thoughts on why I did that? do you want a play-by-play of the language choices in every related sentence? do you want an exhaustive breakdown of The Themes???

me to @zendrella when she says literally anything about something i write

blorbo doesn't cut it that thing is my squeaky toy and i'm a dog with a strong kill instinct. shaking it shaking it shaking it shaking it

Unpopular opinion: not everything that makes you uncomfortable is bad. Sometimes discomfort means your worldview is being challenged. It’s okay to sit with discomfort and think about where it’s coming from.

#Frankly some of you need to be uncomfortable more often#Me too probably idk